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Boosting kids self confidence!

 

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I have gathered 4 amazing articles on boosting you kids self esteem and confidence.Which is very important especially with school starting!

Here are the links:

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/self_esteem.html#

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/confidence.html#

http://selfesteem.dove.ca/en/Articles/Written/Boosting_self-

esteem.aspxhttp://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/how-to-build-your-childs-self-

Losing Scooby Doo: What Have They Done to the Female Characters?

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Our six-year-old daughter has always been a huge fan of Scooby Doo. We started her on the old cartoons and now she has moved on to watching the new ones (Scooby Doo!: Mystery Incorporated), which, admittedly are targeted to older kids. That said, as a parent who enjoyed the original antics of Scooby, Shaggy, Velma and the gang, I was saddened to see how the plot lines have turned.

Sure, the writing is as tongue-and-cheek as it has always been – and at times – very clever. Both kids and parents can enjoy a good laugh at the expense of those “meddling kids” and the mystery solving element is always fun. However, I couldn’t help but notice how Daphne and Velma’s motives have changed since the original. Daphne, although still an enthusiastic mystery solver, is in love with Fred. There’s a particularly disturbing scene where he wakes her up and she’s laying in bed wearing revealing lingerie. My husband and I both exchanged wide-eyed looks. Why?

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Although there’s still the spooky, mystery solving plot line, Daphne mostly cares about her relationship with Fred, how he perceives her and whether or not he’ll ask her to prom. The joke is that Fred is asexual and notices none of her advances.

At least we still have Velma, right? Wrong. Velma is now stupidly obsessed with Shaggy. Not only is she obsessed with him, she also nags him on his style and poor articulation… (“Like, sandwiches, anyone?”) Velma is portrayed as a controlling  girl with low self-esteem. To add insult to injury, producers felt the need to also put Velma in swimwear. Why?

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What I always admired about Scooby Doo was how the show taught kids about using evidence to come to rational conclusions. Monsters and ghosts always had a logical explanation, but to get to the answer, the viewer had to figure out the clues. Kids, especially young girls, are bombarded with enough sexuality through media and the Internet to last a lifetime. Whether it’s through Disney Princesses or Ever After High, childrens’ programming is continuing to “program” them on the idealized female physique. And now, Scooby Doo is losing the innocent fun of mystery solving in favor of putting the female characters in swimsuits. What’s the point? Can’t we allow kids to enjoy a simple, fun show without sexualizing the females… who seem to just pine for romantic relationships? Why have the show’s producers turned on their female characters? Velma and Daphne are no longer strong, independent mystery solvers. All they care about is their relationships with men who treat them poorly. What’s the message in that?

Do Scary Stories for Kids Lead to Nightmares?

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Sometimes kids love hanging out with their monsters

I’ve long been fascinated by horror, as well as the reasons why we are drawn to it. More recently, as I’ve watched my nearly six-year-old daughter, Molly, become drawn to scary stories, I’ve been wondering, why kids seek frightening tales out and what sort of limits they require. This is partly why I wrote The Pinkaboos. I wanted to explore kid’s relationships with scary stories. I believe it is complicated and worthy of exploration in a series.

Molly, like most kids, is a paradox. She is simultaneously the bravest person I know and also one of the biggest chickens I’ve ever met. Last year we started having regular issues at nighttime with various fears and worries, but we’ve seen those issues recede and I believe that’s because we started allowing her to watch scary TV shows and read scary books. Yes, that’s correct.

I noticed that at night she was scared, but during the day she had a growing interest in things that were scary. My initial instinct was to limit all contact with anything but the cuddliest care bear story. But I noticed that she had an innate hunger for spooky stories, so I let her follow her natural inclinations. I’m glad I did.

One of our favorites is Neil Gaiman’s Coraline. Too spooky even for some adults, Coraline tells the tale of young girl who finds a door to an alternate reality, where her Other Mother lives. The Other Mother encourages Coraline to stay whenever she visits. At first it’s a mere suggestion, but as the story progresses, so does her pressure as well as scariness. It’s a messed up, beautiful tale and I half expected it to give her nightmares, but it didn’t. Neither did the movie, The Corpse Bride. Neither did any of the scary shows and books she went on to consume.

So for all of those parents out there maniacally Googling, “How to Prevent Nightmares in Children,” please think twice about the oft quoted advice to avoid scary stories at all costs. If a child is scared of these stories, by all means, don’t force it on them, but for the ones who are inexplicably drawn to scary books and TV shows, consider that their natural inclinations might just be how they seek to come to terms with concepts that they are already wrestling with.

But don’t just take my word for it. Here’s a fantastic explanation of why kids love and need scary stories and some great additional reading for bonus marks here and here.

If you’re still looking for some good advice for kids struggling with nightmares, Alice Thompson wrote up a wonderful list of 27 ways to help a child overcome their nightmares. There are plenty of great tips in there, but she misses my favorite; get a Fright and learn how to scare your nightmares away. If that sounds like a method your child might enjoy, be sure to check out our series, The Pinkaboos.

 

Stay Scary,
Jake